“Let’s set up a conference call. We are not too thrilled with your customer service and support. And, of course, we will see if we want to continue to spend this kind of money. We will discuss our contract at the meeting.” This was the call my client received from a significant customer of his […]
As a negotiator, do not inadvertently create a competitive environment or transfer power to the opponent. Sounds simple. Not. Why not? Because it is linked to your behavior. Your behavior based on assumptions you have made and the expectations you have created on the other side. Expect the opponent to be competitive, the other party will become […]
Mind chattering is the continuous narrative going on in our heads. Some scholars call it a bug. That may be a hasty assessment. Mind chatter is the raw material for Sci-Fi writers. France wants to hire the creatives to imagine how the future could go wrong so that the nations can stay one step […]
When a reference benchmark is not determined and agreed upon in advance, there is a high probability of conflict and deadlock. Each side is tempted to compare itself to a standard that favors its position. Frequently, a clear criterion is not apparent. In such situations, it is even more critical to work with the other […]
John, the majority owner of hotel Dixie in West palm, offered to sell the hotel to its manager, Ajit, at its book value. This was a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for Ajit. He quickly lined up an investor. Since hiring Ajit three years ago, the hotel performance had zoomed from forty percent to full occupancy. Ajit, however, […]
I intended to write the next issue of “Negotiating with difficult people.” However, I am compelled to respond to a question raised by several readers of my newsletter. Question: How do I deal with a person who is known for being a stubborn haggler? If I adopt a collaborative approach and be cordial, my opponent will […]
Pay careful attention to your opponent and look for signals. Recognize that not all of her needs may be readily evident. These are usually unstated needs. A homeowner who will not cooperate with a real estate agent to help sell her house may turn out to have deep-seated uncertainty about selling. Realizing that, you might […]
When your boss makes an inconsiderate request, you need to speak up and say no respectfully. You want your client’s procurement head to know that you value his business, also while you ask him to stop demeaning you for the excellent business relationship. How do you let your opponent save face and view the outcome […]